There is no single level of situation that is equal for everyone. We are all individuals with unique requirements and our physiological and psychological responses to a situation vary greatly. What is distressing to one may be a joy and a pleasure to another.
Anxieties and disturbances can overload our thinking, reducing our ability to concentrate on a task and thereby reducing our performance. Why we are so anxious to know about our future cause we feel we are lacking in our performance and loosing our personal potential and capability.
It is within us from the childhood. Why ?
Now a days parents are not getting time to share with the children. They don’t have the time to provide the extraordinary amount of care necessary to feed, protect, educate, and socialize the child to the point where they can successfully realise, their own potential is greater than that needed.
A mother caring for her service or job is more than enough for her to make her tired. She gets less time to see the growth and wants of her child although she wants them to be. A father ,the male can help in provisioning and protecting, but his contribution is often inadequate.
The communication gap between the child and parents are more distressing.
In this situation when the child grows, specifically at the adolescence age when they have to fight with more questions in their mind to know about the world and life; they run to get information from them; those who are equal to them or from social networks in the internet. In many cases they are misguided and fall in the world of fantasies.
The physical change and hormonal behaviour takes them to have acquaintance with opposite sex.
All attraction and attention towards the sympathy and affection keep them busy in their world. It makes them uncertain about the future when their dreams break down. As they advance in age they dream more and more by learning from the media or friends or the social environments which later becomes unreal. That makes them to search more and more from one to other till they find out the reality of life which is not the same what they thought.
While they were growing up and learning what it means to be male or female, they develop elaborate sexual fantasies. Early fantasies often begin as crushes. Typically they concentrate their romantic hopes and dreams on a movie star whom he/she will never actually meet. In this context , they only imagine being in love without the complications of reality. It gives them mental practice at being desired, valued, and appreciated.
The reality which is out of their imagination makes them sick. All hopes fade away and they become incapable within. The education ,lessons and degrees become useless except getting some bucks to live the life. Lack of peace,love and affection from the childhood make them more and more suspicious and pessimist.
Reality is there for all of us to observe...When we observe relationships, we find that some relationships are more fulfilling and successful than others. For the successful relationships, both people are getting all the things they need. In the relationships that are not fulfilling, one or more of either of the two people's needs are not being met. This gives us a clue as to what we need. But our social condition is like that which makes us to keep our wants within us many a times. What others will think and say makes us more secretive and we kill our wants to become fair in the eyes of others.
But in real……..do others think you are fair that’s big QUESTION.
